Planning the Service
We know that you know that planning a wedding is a huge undertaking, no matter how big or small. In the midst of booking venues for the service and reception; finding a wedding consultant; negotiating the guest list; meeting with caterers; finding the right photographer; and trying on suits and gowns; one thing that can often get overlooked is the service itself.
The clergy at St Matthew's are here to help you plan a service that reflects you and your partner's dreams, vision and values.
One of the tools we have to help you begin is three versions of services offered in the New Zealand Prayer Book. Most couples choose version one, the second most popular version is number three. All three services can be adapted which would be necessary in the case of a same-sex marriage. The third most popular version is one that the couple create themselves. The clergy are happy to assist you through the process. If you choose to write your own service, the prayer book services are a useful outline for what needs to be in it. A copy of those services can be downloaded here.
A frequently asked question is, "Can we write our own vows?" The answer is yes.
Other things to think about for the service include readings and music, and who you would like to participate. These are key ways to personalise even the most traditional service. Other traditions have become popular such as the lighting of a Unity Candle.
This is your day and we are here to help you along the way.
The Clergy & Staff of St Matthew-in-the-City